Both believers and unbelievers have this place in the soul man that is broken and crying out to God to be made whole. Often this "crying out" is displayed through behavior of a negative emotion, so this crying out gets mislabeled as a "problem that needs to be dealt with".
Our negative emotion will either drive us into a of place seeking out the deeper things of God or it will drive us into looking for a replacement to our God. Causing us to look for someone or something to fix or dull this negative emotion within. Could it be, as a believer, if we choose a replacement God, we are committing Spiritual Adultery.
We'll look to outside means like drugs, alcohol, sex, entertainment, relationships, eating disorders, etc. all of which are trying to dull or mask the affect of this negative emotion. But this can turn on us and create a secondary problem of addiction, which becomes a monster that will control our life.
Or we can stuff this emotion, and deny it's existence, limping along in life, living broken on the inside, a life without victory.
Despair, anger, sadness, fear, shame, jealously are all negative emotions that "church culture" looks down on and tells us to "stop" these behaviors. Negative emotions can be a wonderful thing if we use it to propel us into the deeper things of God.
But often we try to train our self to have "good christian behavior". Such as; if one has a problem with anger, he can train himself to no longer display this anger. This is a discipline that man can possess denying the need for God. When we say, "God I've got this one" I'll fix my own problem, then our behaviour will no longer display itself in anger but now mutates into something deeper and more insidious, feeding into a prideful, religious spirit, because we have attained this through relying on our self and ignoring our need of God. We've denied our self an encounter with God to do a "life changing" work within us that will not only heal our brokenness, but has the power to turn despair and hopelessness into a miracle of gratitude and worship.
Any time we try to fix an internal problem with an external thing, or when we fix our problem with self made determination, denying help from God, we have committed spiritual adultery.
All our unmet emotional desires point to a hunger for God to bring restoration, healing, a wholeness to our life that only He can fulfill. God is relational, He doesn't want us to deny our problems but instead bring them to Him and engage in honest conversation, recognizing our need of His restorative work in our life.
Culture says, we have a right to be happy and if you're not happy, then find a quick fix to meet that need, when actually it's our soul man once again calling out to God.
Do we recognize this calling out, or are we too busy trying to find "our next fix"?